Marriage gets a bad rap because most people are really bad at it. It's the couples' fault for being neither mature enough nor smart enough to manage.
I used to believe people couldn't possibly promise to love someone else in 10, 20 years when neither their partners nor they will be the same people they are now. We know that the future is filled with uncertainty.
Loving someone is a very selfish act, and it's okay.
Later, when she puzzled over their relationship, she'd remember this. That had been a fateful move; it made everything easier for him. After the funeral, a grief counselor told her to make no sudden changes in her life for at least a year, and she followed that advice.
He's attractive, funny, charming, successful and his smile -- let alone the thought of his caress -- makes you weak in the knees.
You go out on a date or two, and he's nothing short of perfect.
Two sharp blows that had left her alone in her late 50s. His cancer took him swiftly, before she had time to process what was happening.
It had been over two years since the death of her husband of 20 years; four, since she had lost her mother.