I’m now in a happy relationship with a wonderful guy and I have everything on track. She was one of the people who encouraged you to get away from him and now she’s going to play house? (Something you and she both know this dude is famous for). It’s a mixture of anger, pity, rejection and frustration. So, while the emotions may be running high, and you’re feeling a lot of feelings, I think you have to remove yourself entirely. She’s holding onto a part of your life that is still very painful for you. I’m sure this is not the first time this friend has done something shady or put a guy before your friendship.Or so I other night, I get a call from one of my best friends. Is it really a golden rule that you don't date your friends exes? Do some reflecting and I’m certain you will find a pattern.It's a touchy subject in many friendships, but on the one hand, dating your friend's ex might turn out to be no big deal at all.On the other hand, it may matter to your friend or even yourself, so tread carefully if that's the path you're choosing to take.I’m saying this because it’s one of the best ways to really justify why what I’m about to say next is bugging me so much.See, about two years ago I was hanging out with a guy who very publicly announced he was in love with another woman (who was everything I wasn’t), right in front of me and people I knew. The moment I started attracting interest from men I couldn’t stop thinking that they’d rather be with someone taller and thinner and totally different from me. I was embarrassed and filled with shame, and felt all those things I felt as a teenager — of not being good enough or attractive enough or enough, and my brain couldn’t stop thinking I wasn’t the only one who believed that either.Focus on that and all the other wonderful, fulfilling aspects of your life. She’s the one who did this to your friendship and you MUST put yourself FIRST.It sucks to let go of a long-time friendship, but she’s drawn a line in the sand that can’t be washed away by any tide.
I'm torn between my own desire for lasting relationship bliss and my desire to preserve the most important friendship in my life. —Something Has to Give Submit Your Own Question to a Therapist Your friend is going to be hurt. When you made the choice to start hanging out with your best friend’s ex without telling her, that’s when you made the decision to hide your actions, and possibly your feelings, from her.She tells me that she and my ex have been spending a lot of time alone together, that romantic feelings have developed between them, that they slept together the night before... Love, C actually isn't cause for you to get mad at your BFF. You are growing up and it is time to take the next step into life.and that she'd like to know how I felt about it becoming a “thing.”Naturally, I told her that what really bothered me was not that he was my ex, but that the fact that he was emotionally abusive to me didn't stop her from wanting to date him. You’re over him, there is no love lost and if your friend wanted to date him..would be no big deal. You have a wonderful boyfriend now you loves you, and is kind to you.You might be surprised at some of the celebrity friends who have dated the same person; keep reading to see them now. But I never told my bestie that we were spending time together, let alone that we were growing close.